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If you’ve ever set yourself a goal that started off with enthusiasm but quickly dissolved into half-arsed sporadic attempts to take actions, followed by the occasional ‘dream’ of achieving that goal, then this is aimed at you.

Or, if you have the desire to set a goal and make changes, but haven’t got the energy to follow this through and take the daily actions required to achieve it, then this is also referring to you.

Or, maybe you have lost your ‘flow’ and sparkle and it’s a daily battle to get your motivations level up to take actions, guess what…then this is aimed at helping you.

Trust me, I’ve been all of the above at some point or another and the array of emotions that are attached to that are exhausting. The guilt for not doing the things I’d committed to myself to do, the frustrations at not being where I ‘should’ be with my life, and then there’s the huge feeling of being incomplete, let alone comparing ourselves to all the achievements of others on social media.

None of those emotions are remotely helpful or resourceful, in fact, they’re highly damaging, and what they affect the most are your motivation levels.

Goals and ambitions are great, but if you don’t have the get up and go to make it happen, then they simply remain a dream.  

Everyone has the capability to achieve anything they wish to achieve, as long as they know how to use their brain and thoughts to work with them and not against them.

The thing that dissolves our motivations is, in fact, our own thinking.

For example, we may plan to have a super productive day the next day, we might even plan out our to-do list and figure out which actions to start with when we wake up in the morning. Feeling all smug and prepared we settle down for our night of sleep. Then, the next thing we know, our alarm is going off, letting us know it’s time to make a start on that to-do list and drive actions. But, something interrupts us, someone is telling us that it’s so cosy and warm in bed, we should have 5 more minutes, it’s grumpy weather outside, you’ve already prepared your to-do list…surely that’s enough actions for now? Maybe we should give it a miss today and start properly tomorrow. This person literally screams these messages at you, particularly when it comes to the goal of exercise and healthy eating!

Who is this individual imparting this information on us….well of course, it’s ourselves. In fact, it’s a part of the brain called the limbic system that’s trying to interfere with your plans by sharing these interfering and potentially derailing thoughts with you. The science behind this is for another day, today is about how can we silence it, or at least reason with the irrational thinking to actually take control, commit to taking action, and increase our motivations.

It’s actually pretty simple, it’s called the 5 second rule by Mel Robbins. It’s so simple it’s genius. Mel’s concept of the 5 second rule is a technique that interrupts your thought patterns before they try to convince you not to take action. Before the un-resourceful thought takes place, we intercept it and, like a ninja, we take it by surprise.

Mel Robbins – The 5 second rule book

The moment you choose to do something, maybe wake up and go to the gym,  go for that run, or sit down and write that book, you simply count 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, GO and take action.

The important piece personally for me here is the moment the thought of taking action takes place in my head, that’s the exact point I have to intercept. I don’t give it a split second for that internal part of my brain to try and sabotage my success. Instead I follow this process:

Positive intention thought takes place

Instantly count 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, GO, without hesitation

Take action to complete that task

This instantaneous approach removes any hesitation and the self-sabotaging self-talk, and I feel good for it, it increases my motivation and I don’t stop….I keep going.

Give it a go, the next time you feel your motivation slipping, follow Mel’s advice and count back from 5….I like to say GO out loud, but figure out what works for you! I highly recommend you read this book for the full insight into this technique.

Let’s get motivated and make a difference in our own lives and help others to do the same.

Don’t be the thing in your own way, 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, GO!

Love, Nicole.